Overweight? Wait over ..with NLP

Not to make light of any overweight person's achievement, I find it is important they understand that their current condition is something that they have achieved. Overweight may not be a desired achievement, yet it is an achievement! Another hidden achievement is their muscular body. Yes, muscular body.  They are the most enthusiastic exercise fanatics I've seen, most body-builders leave their weights at the gym.  carrying an extra 100 pounds all day every day creates an amazing amount of muscle. They get to enjoy their muscular body after they eat only enough for a person who is the target size and use the energy in their fat to carry their fat.

Overweight? Wait over! I'm becoming slimmer now! Slimmer, is more becoming.

The simple statement above is responsible for several clients becoming slimmer easily and happily. The very language of "lose? wait!" or is it "lose = weight" can play to the self image of confident (I am not a loser) and unconfident (I am a loser) people. The word 'overweight' also aptly describes the behavioral condition, they have been waiting too long before taking action. A delayed feedback loop (Hmm.. the irony!).

Speaking of feedback, most people need feedback to feel successfully motivated to continue their slimming behavior. Using the scale, or even the measuring tape, does not provide feedback often enough. A persons body always lets them know when it is using up fat reserves, hunger. Paying attention to this hunger signal provides immediate feedback that fat is being used. Enjoy being mildly hungry. The body provides adifferent signal when it runs low on energy, this signal definitely requires a little feeding 

I believe it is most important for you to find the beliefs and values that are effecting the clients weight. I have had a few who believed that, "Inevitably (presupposes the rest is true), everyone gets heavier as they get older." Their experience proved this out. No mater how many diets and exercise programs, they gained a few pounds each year. 3 pounds a year for 30 years is 90 pounds! Changing this belief with counterexamples etc results in a cascade of eating behavior changes that cause the client to conform to the new belief that they can now become slimmer.

Many of my clients were eating to maintain their poor self esteem. Eating feels good (comfort) and supports the proof of self esteem (achievement). I overcome this by teaching them how to feel wonderful anytime (link to stress triggers) and giving them a sense of connection to community, world & universe (comfort there).

Overweight people are usually experts on how to remove fat, what to eat, when to eat, which exercises, that energy in minus energy out = storage, etc. I confirm this in the pre-trance discussion. Then, after dealing with the "larger" issues, I provide confirming suggestions and future pace their use of this behavior.

Mental activities. What is acceptable or OK body shape at various ages?

1. Note how quickly the mind thinks as it generalizes normal body shape at various ages.
2. Pick a few examples of people who have the desired body shape.
3. Quickly generalize, as before, the desired body shape as normal for self.
4. Rapidly imagine consistently doing the following 2 activities. Repeat often.

Physical activities of becoming slimmer.

1. Minimizing carbohydrates and sugars in diet.
2. Maximizing physical activity. Guiding principle is to keep it simple.
   
   
   

Enjoy,

Confidence with NLP

Confidence, or the lack of it, is a huge factor in peoples lives.  One of the most common questions people ask is how they can have more confidence.  What they are really asking is how they can have confidence at times when they do not. They feel that they could achieve what they want at those times if they felt confident.  Confidence is a resourceful state of mind, whereas feeling unconfident generally gets in the way of taking action and finding solutions.

Confident and unconfident are two sides of the same coin.

Like a coin, only one side at a time is evident.  Whenever un-confidence is felt, it indicates that confidence is present.  Ironically, when a person feels unconfident they are quite confident that they feel unconfident.  There are plenty of things they are confident about, that have brought them to the conclusion that they are unconfident about something.

To Feel Self Confidence: Stop thinking about what you can't do.  Focusing on what you are confident you can do, puts you into a confident and resourceful state of mind.